A few weeks back I caught the movie “The Story of Us” (1999) on late night TV. It told the story of couple who had struggled through 15 years of marriage and were considering a divorce. I was overwhelmed by the honesty of the characters and the realistic portrayal of marriage in the film. Bruce Willis and Michele Pfeiffer were superb. It was so uncomfortably honest, you almost wanted to turn the channel.
I think if I would have seen it when I got married 16 years ago , I would have dismissed it and said “No way, that will never happen to Kathy and I, because we’re different. We’re in love.” What a bunch of baloney! Everyone couple says “They’re in love,” but love is so much deeper than a feeling. Feelings come and go and then come back again, but marriage is a unconditional commitment to an imperfect person. As I watched, I kept thinking that every other movie on love and marriage is an “unreal fantasy.” I think most movies portray an idyllic view of marriage that is unrealistic and unnormal. Marriage the greatest thing in the world and the most challenging thing all wrapped into one. It was truly the best movie I’ve ever seen on marriage and really gave Kathy and I some conversation points to talk about to improve our relationship.
After 16 years, I’m still so in love with Kathy and I’m still amazed that she actually picked me.
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