30/30: Relationships. 3questions. Tolstoy

29 04 2008

God has uniquely stamped men and women with His character traits, but often we live them out in ways that aren’t helpful to us and don’t fit God’s design. For example, men take the competitive stamp and get engrossed in sports and completely stop competing for the heart of their wife. God has stamped women with incredible intuition, but instead of filtering those thoughts though the Holy Spirit, they live by feelings instead of facts. We closed the series by listening to Christ and setting life goals to become the men and women that Christ has called us to be. Leo Tolstoy said, “Everybody thinks about changing humanity, but nobody thinks about changing himself.”

1. Which area would I like to get more on track with how God has stamped me to live? (Pick one)

Man Challenges:

  • Initiative: Instead of taking initiative for your own benefit…become a spiritual leader
  • Risk: Instead of becoming adrenaline junkies, become a person who takes faith and righteousness risks.
  • Loyalty: Commit to pursuing vital Christian relationships with other men.
  • Competition: Lose the Misplaced Competitive Disorder, get in God’s game and compete for the heart of your wife.

Women Challenges:

  • Nurturing: Instead of being misdirected by the busyness of life and the needs of others, stop and BE alone with Christ, so he can nurture and re-direct you.
  • Security: Stop looking for security in outward beauty, start living for Christ and bring out the beauty in others.
  • Intuition: Stop basing your decisions on feelings, and start filtering your feelings through the Holy Spirit.
  • Community: Use your words to build others up and point people to Christ.

2. What is my plan to move in a new direction and change? What’s one thing I can to this week to get started?

3. EXTRA CREDIT: What can you do to help your spouse or friend in the areas THEY FEEL they need to work on?

Exercise daily in God—no spiritual flabbiness, please! Workouts in the gymnasium are useful, but a disciplined life in God is far more so, making you fit both today and forever. I Timothy 4:7-8

What area is moving you to change?





Sara Bereilles: Little Voice

29 04 2008

I don’t know where I’ve been the last year, but I heard “Love Song” from musician Sara Bereilles for the first time last night. It’s been out a while, but Out-of-Touch-Tim is clueless. She sounds a lot like Christine Dente / Out of the Grey which filled my CD player in the 90’s. That one song was enough for me to download the CD on iTunes. I thought it would be good, but surprisingly with each song the album got better. It’s rare to get an album that’s great from top to bottom, but the combination of poignant lyrics, moving piano, and haunting vocals was incredible.  She captured a range of emotion from of sadness to joy. The closing song “Gravity” was the best – a memorizing masterpiece.





Catalyst: The Half-Hearted Kamikaze

28 04 2008

IMAGE: Kamikaze pilots are only useful if they are committed to their mission. Leaders are the same way. You cannot have involvement without commitment and be effective. It goes with the territory. Once you are committed, you’ll find resources, energy and people follow. Leaders who make their mark, commit themselves to a cause with reckless abandon to a cause. Commitment precedes results.

VERSE: Matthew 16:24

LEARNING: There was a story of a a Kamikaze Pilot who was amazingly interviewed about how he returned from 50th mission. He said, “Well it’s like this…I was very Read the rest of this entry »





New Series@Epic: Characters Welcome

25 04 2008

I am so excited about our new series at Epic. I love digging into the Old Testament stories and seeing how God can use us.

characters welcomeEver feel like you don’t fit in? Especially at church?

Sometimes churches seem to churn out “cookie cutter Christians” where everyone looks the same. At Epic, nothing could be further from the truth. In this series, you will learn from six odd and unusual Biblical characters who didn’t fit in, but lived an original life of impact for God.

Come…show us your character and discover how God can use your uniqueness to transform the world. Only you can be you.

May 4 Crazy: Benaiah
May 11 Beautiful: Esther – Mothers day Celebration!
May 18 Freak’d: Gideon
May 25 Unpopular: Rach, Shaq, Benny
June 1 Rebellious: Moses
June 8 Original: Jeremiah





Ten Questions Every Leader Needs to Ask

24 04 2008

Continuing with 10 questions from last week. Today we look at questions about our Relationship with Christ. They come from the lifechurch.tv blog

1. What did I learn in God’s word this week?

2. Is my burden for prayer growing or diminishing?

3. Does my heart break for the things that break the heart of God?

4. Have I grown accustomed to or accepted sin in my life?

5. Am I doing ministry out of an overflow of God’s work in my heart or out of my own strength?

6. Has my teaching and ministry deepened, changed, or evolved in a positive way in the last year?

7. Do I have a sincere peace that I’m living an authentic life of spiritual integrity?

8. Is my heart growing larger for people and God or is it shrinking?

9. Am I closer to God today than I was a year ago?

10. Do others comment that they can clearly see evidence of God’s work in my life?

Which of these resonate with you? What else would you ask?





Men & Women: It’s Your Move

23 04 2008

When God leads, we follow. A number of you have commented that this series has challenged you to grow to become who God has uniquely created you to become. God is moving, so we’re staying with Christ for one more week. This Sunday, I’ll be talking about your next move relationally. We will get real specific as we each set relationship goals for 2008.





30/30: Chatterbox. Filter. Mouth Challenge.

23 04 2008

Growing up I was a chatterbox. My parents would tell me I would talk and talk and talk. My mom would say, “Tim, God gave you one mouth and two ears for a reason. You should listen twice as much as you talk.” Once when I was going on and on, my dad said, “Tim, it’s always best to use the brain, before you use the mouth.” In this series on Men and Women, we learned that women speak on average 14,000 more words a day than men. That’s a lot of talking…but the question we need to ask is “what are we saying?” Are we using these words in a way that honors God?” Read the rest of this entry »