U Asked 4 It: What About Masturbation?

2 07 2009

You asked for it screen02This was one question you asked at Epic in our “You Asked For It” series I did NOT want to answer. But it’s the real deal of what people struggling with. I believe the home is the best place to talk about this, but seriously “how many of us had parents who talked about it and led us in Biblical truth?”If we say nothing, we are really saying we want the media, friends and experimentation to teach our kids their values about sex, lust and the infamous M Word. That is not acceptable and why I answered your question last Sunday.

Here Are Five Thoughts On the M Word…

1. Guard Your Eyes and Mind at Any Cost

In talking about sex, Jesus said sex was a mental battle long before it was a physical battle. Anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Matthew 5:28.

In years of working with people, I have seen more lives destroyed by sexual sin than probably all other sins combined. Destroyed marriages. Devastated kids. Broken relationships. Spouses withdrawing from the real person they love to an Internet fantasy world. Do you really want that for your life? If not do what Job did. I made a covenant with my eyes, not to look with lust at a young woman. Job 31:1

How do you practically do that? Bounce your thoughts from the object of lust to something else. If you are married, take that thought captive and bounce it planning something romantic for your wife. With God’s help, grab the thought….We take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. 2 Corinthians 10:5 and bounce it to… Whatever is pure…lovely…excellent or praiseworthy- think about such things. Philippians 4:8

2.Determine Your Body is Not Your Own

I used to say, “It’s my body, I can do whatever I want with it.” Working with people, I have found the #1 regret people have something sexual. Let’s be honest, we’ve all made some mistakes in this area. So the next step is to determine who’s body is this? My body belongs first to God and then to my Spouse. Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit…You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body. 1 Corinthians 6:18-20. The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. I Corinthians 7:4 God is saying you can have “me sex” or you can have “we sex.” So often we settle for second best, when God has so much more for us in marriage.

3. Be Radical in Your Commitment to Sexual Purity

Anyone who’s struggled with the M Word, knows that well is dry and leaves you feeling hollow and empty inside. Jesus wants you to have a full life, not an empty one, so get serious...If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away… if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. Matthew 28:28-30 Was Jesus being literal? If so, there would be a lot of “one-armed cyclops” out there. What He was saying was get radical and get radical in dealing with this! Get an internet filter, cancel those cable channels and do whatever it takes to deal with this serious.

4. Don’t Be Afraid to Talk About It

Everyone I know who has gone from struggling with the M Word to freedom from it is open and honest with someone about their struggles. People want to get serious and can help hold them accountable to their commitment. Maybe it’s your spouse or another person. If you’re a guy, be open with men. You just may be surprised to hear they are struggling in this area. You are not alone. I love the way James says it. Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. James 5:16 We confess our sins to God for forgiveness, but we confess our sins to one another to experience help and healing to become the people God wants to be.

5. If You Compromise, Confess Your Sin and Move On

If you mess up…stop condemning yourself, confess it to God and live out of the forgiveness that Christ gives you. Jesus went to the cross, because we NEEDED forgiveness as sinful people…So receive it. He forgives completely. Begin a new life forgiven by Him. Forgive yourself, live out of that and… Forget the past and looking forward to what lies ahead, I press on to reach the end of the race and receive the heavenly prize for which God, through Christ Jesus, is calling us. Philippians 3:13




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2 07 2009

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